12 Things NOT to Tell Your Friends About Your Relationship (2023)

FAQs

What should you not tell your friends? ›

Your Intimate Health Details Or Those Of Your Family

Best friends aren't entitled to know about what happens between you and your doctor; it's your information, not theirs. You're not obliged to give any loved one a running commentary on a medical issue you don't particularly want to talk about.

RED: oversharing early in the relationship. Some information is first, second, third date material and some information is reserved for those who have shown they can hold space for stickier subjects. Oversharing doesn't create intimacy. Oversharing is self-absorption masked as vulnerability.

Privacy in relationships, at its very core, is a fundamental right. You and your partner have the right to keep certain aspects of yourself and your relationships private. Keeping certain things private shows respect for your partner and helps the two of you to develop trust.

Examples of Oversharing

Posting intimate details about your relationships, friendships, family matters, or personal drama. Using social media as a soapbox or a way to vent your emotions. Posting photos or videos of things meant to be private. Posting embarrassing photos or videos of yourself or others.

Oversharing is saying something personal or inappropriate in the wrong setting or to the wrong person. It's usually not something people with ADHD do on purpose. Sometimes they may not realize they're giving too much information or saying the wrong thing.

A toxic relationship is one that makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned, or attacked. A relationship is toxic when your well-being is threatened in some way—emotionally, psychologically, and even physically.

What are the dangers of having two partners? ›

Multiple Sexual Partners

You're more likely to get HIV or another STD when you have more than one sex partner, or many sex partners during your lifetime. That's because more people mean more chances that one or more of them will have HIV or an infection.

Honesty is the foundation for trust in a relationship, and trust is necessary for a relationship to function and thrive. When you're always honest with someone, it tells them that they can trust you and the things you say. It helps them know they can believe your promises and commitments.

“Toxic friendships happen when one person is being emotionally harmed or used by another, making the relationship more of a burden than support,” says Suzanne Degges-White, author of Toxic Friendships. A bad friendship can increase your blood pressure, lower your immunity, and affect your mental health.

In fact, a 2009 Dutch study found that a large majority of friendships only last about seven years. Like any relationship, friendships take work if you want them to last. So we asked a group of experts what they believe is the number one thing that makes friendships last a lifetime.

The most significant factors in ending a friendship were discovered to be, broadly, selfishness, being more likely to end friendships with those who looked after their own interest, were not supportive of them, were dishonest, and were taking without giving, among the prime reasons.

Too much secrecy can be a red flag because the actions being kept secret can often be dangerous, illegal, disloyal, and/or abusive. Be advised though, there is a BIG difference between secrecy and privacy. We deserve to have some “me time” and we deserve to have time to take care of ourselves on our own terms.

A low-key relationship means the couple doesn't appreciate displaying their relationship publicly, except in the presence of close friends and family members. Meanwhile, many people have trouble categorizing their relationship as either a private or secret relationship. Simple!

Some people like to keep a relationship private when they're not sure where it's going. Still, others want to keep a relationship secret because they are also involved with another person, or not completely over their previous relationship.

What is the root cause of oversharing? ›

Oversharing (O/S thinking):

Sometimes oversharing is also the result of a misguided attempt to gain sympathy. If you share your mistakes to help others, you are being authentic; if you share too much to gain sympathy, then you are oversharing.

Trying to fast-track the relationship

A common reason for oversharing is the desire to build depth and emotional intimacy before the relationship is ready. This can often be connected to stress or a fear of not being liked by the person. First dates, new coworkers, or mutual friends often elicit this oversharing.

Oversharing can all too often be a smokescreen for a serious psychological issue, including things like anxiety disorder and borderline personality disorder. And the first hint can be whether you can control your blather or not.

Trauma dumping refers to persistently oversharing traumatic experiences with people who may not be ready or willing to receive this information. Trauma is a sensitive topic. While some conversations bring intimacy and healing, others may breed more trauma. It's not always clear when bringing up trauma is appropriate.

What is oversharing? Oversharing can be posting too frequently, posting inappropriate content such as discriminatory statements, disparaging your previous employers—or in the case of the Cisco story, potential employer and posting incriminating photos.

Oversharing is about poor boundaries. It's a misplaced request for emotional labour or support that is inappropriate for the wider situation or the relationship with another person. It comes from a purely selfish place.

What do toxic boyfriends do? ›

Toxic relationships are characterized by a lack of trust, controlling behaviors, and frequent lying. Often one partner is prioritized instead of coming together as a team. While toxic relationships can, at times, be healed, both partners must be willing to adapt and work on the relationship.

Nectar Sleep surveyed Americans to discover how many sexual partners they had before settling down. The average number for people who identify as men was 26, the average number for people who identify as women was 19. But other studies have shown that people often lie about their number.

No, you should never use more than one condom at a time. Using two condoms actually offers less protection than using just one. Why? Using two condoms can cause friction between them, weakening the material and increasing the chance that the condoms might break.

All healthy relationships share the following three core components: Mutual respect. Mutual trust. Mutual affection.

The toxic traits of a toxic person include unsupportive and unpleasant behavior, being manipulative, judgmental, controlling, and self-centered. Such people can be the cause of various negative feelings and emotions that you may be experiencing like depression, anxiousness, worthlessness, and unhappiness.

She wants you all by herself

A toxic girlfriend couldn't stand the idea of you spending your time with anyone else. She expects to be the most important person in your life, all the time. Even if you want to spend time with your friends, colleagues, or family, she gets angry or upset.

Your relationship will last forever if your trust, intimacy, and love grow with time. Also, if your future goals and plans are aligned with each other, you can make your relationship work to last a lifetime. Remember that a true win for couples is when they fight but do not forget to respect each other.

Common causes for breakups include personality differences, lack of time spent together, infidelity, lack of positive interactions between the couple, low sexual satisfaction, and low overall relationship satisfaction. Ending a relationship is one of the most difficult things we have to do.

What are 3 warning signs of an unhealthy relationship? ›

If the friend you want to seduce is already close and comfortable enough with you, regular conversation should come naturally to the two of you. With the foundations in place, you'll want to work playful flirting into your talk. Exchanging light, teasing remarks into your conversation is a great place to start.

A good secret could be a surprise trip out, a birthday party or a present. Someone telling you to keep a secret that you do not like, or feel upset about. Anyone saying you must not tell.

But at times, it's okay to not tell your best friend everything under the sun. Keeping mum about some of the details doesn't really hurt or mean that you're making an effort to disrespect the sacred bond of 'friendship'. Sometimes 'not TMI' is fine, especially in front of your bestie.

Should I talk to my friends about my relationship? ›

Discussing problems in your romantic relationship with your friends can be beneficial to you, your friendship, and your romantic relationship. There's no reason to feel guilty about talking to your close friends about your relationship, as long as you're being honest and not sharing anything too personal.

Should I tell my friend my secret? Yes. It's likely your friend loves you and through your connection has a strong feeling that many recent events just haven't added up and has serendipitously pieced the clues together for a damn good circumstantial case.

BFF (Best Friend Forever)

What is 'girl code'? “'Girl code' is the rules of being a woman, especially with regards to dating,” says Ellen Scott. It's stuff like: you can't date your friend's ex, you also can't date your ex's friend. If you saw your friend's boyfriend cheating on them – you'd have to tell your friend.

A real friend is someone that you can rely on. You know that they will keep their plans with you. You know that you can rely on them to show up for you when you need it. Real friends are people that have proven they will show up for you in the past and will continue to do so because you are a priority to them.